Answered Dec 30, 2019
In Wellington, you can have all three of these seasons.
In a single, 24-hour period.
That is just how Wellington is.
Answered Dec 30, 2019
In Wellington, you can have all three of these seasons.
In a single, 24-hour period.
That is just how Wellington is.
Answered Nov 17, 2019
The idea is, “Spring forward, Fall back”. On whatever Sunday night is designated. This applies to both northern and southern hemispheres.
Personally, my only clocks are on the computer and the phone. So I set them to update the time automatically.
In New Zealand, we generally thank the driver.
When I leave from the back door, I lightly call, “Thank you.”
Leaving from the front door, I lightly say, “Cheers.”
I live in a small city, so the drivers and I sometimes recognise each other, and they may even know where I am going.
I do this thanks/cheers for both local buses, and for intercity buses.
This habit might be waived if there is a big crowd getting on or off.
This is normal in Palmy and Welly, and probably the rest of New Zealand.
Updated Fri, Dec 27, 2019
So many things I have found myself explaining to (alleged) adults…
In some cases, multiple different items above were explained to one person. Some items were explained to multiple different people.
Even when explaining these principles, some people still didn’t comprehend. Some adamantly argued, and insisted that I was the ignorant one.
Updated Oct 8, 2019
It’s partly about two physical layout issues – one general, and one specific. Plus a perceptual issue.
San Francisco is very compact and crowded. Lots of very different people, crammed into a relatively small space. Many of whom take public transport, and also walk around. This includes tourists and other visitors.
Walk down Market Street during the daytime. You will see a large number of people, of all kinds. You won’t necessarily really register and remember the large number of yuppies, hipsters, tourists, etc that you pass by. But, disheveled-looking bums hanging around, aggressive beggars, visible drug use, urination, etc, will make a much stronger impression. Even if that is a relatively small per-capita percentage of the city’s population.
Compare that to a view of Los Angeles, where everything and everyone is spread out. And that view may also be through the windows of a car (including if you are a tourist or other visitor).
Next is the specific location of homeless services, such as soup kitchens, and many of the SRO buildings that San Francisco uses to warehouse the homeless and borderline-homeless. And, of course, some of the street corners where you can openly buy crack and heroin. You can also do various activities such as sleeping or defecating on the sidewalk, without being in front of the homes of any yuppies who might complain to police. This concentration is a charming neighbourhood called the Tenderloin district.
The Tenderloin is conveniently located a very short walk from Market Street. Including the Market and Powell cable car turnaround, which attracts large numbers of tourists. It’s also next to the Financial District, as well as the areas where a visitor might pass through on the way to Chinatown and to North Beach. Spare any change?
In contrast, the Los Angeles Skid Row district (with soup kitchens, shelters, etc) is located very far away from LA’s tourist attractions and other places for visitors. It is also segregated from the middle class, affluent, and struggling-hipster residential neighborhoods.
This leads to a difference of exposure.
With that said, I also agree with many of the other factors in the other answers here.
Answered Jul 27, 2019
Get ready to be surprised by some mind-boggling, willfully-ignorant, small-minded attitudes.
This includes from people who have spent their entire lives in the suburbs of a major city. I know that I seem to belabour this point, but it is heavily female-biased.
Even in “the big city”, many, many women assume that, every person just lives their whole life stuck in one town. Or even just one particular suburban area.
I met people in Orange County, California, who acted like “going to LA” was a special occasion. Or that, going to any unfamiliar area inside the local area would be a disorienting, frightening experience.
There are people in big-city areas who literally don’t know how to use a street map to get to the suburbs on the other side of town. It should be a basic skill, but many actually lack it. To the point where, they are unaware that anyone has that skill.
Then, add on the psychological/social factors. Some people will actually insist that every “adult” stays in whatever town where their mother lives. With zero other factors under consideration. This is one of the female-biased points.
There is a mindset that, any kind of new environment, especially without any familiar people, would just be impossible to withstand.
Then, add on the ignorance of how different other places are. I met people in Los Angeles who couldn’t comprehend, “Smallville has very poor job prospects and mass poverty, and zero educational prospects”. Or maybe they just didn’t care, since they weren’t the one being told that they would inevitably “have to go back” to Smallville.
And, speaking of “have to go back”, you can expect to hear those words decades after you escaped Smallville, without even any visits back there. You will still be treated like you are on vacation.
There are people who simply cannot comprehend that, someone might have moved around repeatedly, long distances, as a child, and so doesn’t have a fixed “hometown”. There are people who cannot comprehend that, your Mommy’s location isn’t your personal “hometown”. Because they cannot comprehend that, anyone’s parents ever relocated.
Some women (that bias again) take the attitude that, the “right” thing to do, is to just draw a twenty-kilometre radius from your birthplace (and/or Mommy’s house), and just accept that that is your world. What is or isn’t available in that tiny world isn’t seen as relevant.
This includes “right” thing in terms of “common sense”, as if every reasonable, rational person would agree.
It also includes “right” thing in terms of morality. Which is a euphemism for dissuading you from doing anything positive with your life that someone else feels too incompetent and/or afraid to do.
Updated Jun 29, 2019
Many misconceptions don’t just come from wealthy people, but also from those with middle class backgrounds. It can also come from individuals who are themselves doing low-wage jobs, or even who are unemployed, but who have middle-class parents.
Updated Nov 24
Someone who was psychologically and practically equipped to move to a new country, may also be psychologically and practically equipped to move again. Also, some people deliberately use NZ as a “back door” to their real destination, Australia, which has greater economic and social opportunities.
However, a big reason could be the incredibly negative social attitudes towards immigrants.
I know I harp on this, but there is a big difference between men and women.
Men say stupid things, like:
“Do you ever think about going back?”
“Huh, huh, huh, I bet you wish you were back there!”
And then they get disappointed if you tell them that you actually have control over your location.
Women are much, much worse.
“You have an accent! Where are you from? Why are you here! You owe me an explanation!”
Most women in this country take one of exactly two attitudes:
It really is that micromanaging. A lot of women get personally offended at the idea that someone could even just relocate to a new city, inside the same country. This also relates to many, many women’s locations being based on an emotional umbilical cord to their mothers, and/or a financial umbilical cord to their breadwinning husband. They totally resent women who assert basic adult independence.
Did I mention the, “You have an accent!” harassment with virtually every woman you meet? Some of them expect you to be impressed by their amazing perceptiveness. Some of them act like they have never met a foreign-born person before.
There are women who will start up a rapid-fire interrogation. Where they reveal nothing about themselves (not even their name). While demanding details about a foreign-born person’s legal/governmental status, work and finances (including taxes), and the arrogantly intrusive, “Why did you come here, so I can decide if your reason satisfies me”. Try working with the public, and total strangers will do this.
Let’s not forget the mass racism. If an immigrant is white/European looking, some people will assume that they automatically share the common bias against Asian people.
A lot of the condescension and hostility towards immigrants is really about tall poppy syndrome, and the resentment of anyone who got off the couch and did anything interesting with their life.
Some women get an indignant, “I never get to go anywhere I want!” attitude, as if the immigrant is perpetrating some kind of personal unfairness against them.
No matter how long an immigrant has lived here, there is an automatic assumption that they are really just on vacation. With confusion and resentment about how someone could be on vacation for years and years.
Generally, the only relief is in more educated situations, such as university environments, which contain many foreign-born people.
Speaking of which, there are people who will direct the, “you have to go back where you can from” attitude towards an immigrant with higher education in a STEM field, including a degree that was heavily subsidised by NZ taxpayers. It’s like they actually think that the “brain drain” is somehow going to help the country.
Some will automatically assume that, a foreign-born university student is here on a student visa which will expire upon graduation (or maybe better yet, dropping out). If she corrects this, and states that she is a permanent resident, some still don’t seem to comprehend the difference, and keep pushing.
I once encountered an induhvidual who claimed that, no employer in NZ will ever hire an immigrant, or even someone who merely moved to a new city within the country. The logic being that, all immigrants “go back where they came from”(to a specific town) for emotional reasons. So there isn’t any point in hiring someone who will be doing that real soon now. However, this is combined with the idea of job discrimination being used to force immigrants to leave. So it’s a circular logic.
I have encountered women who will demand to know if an immigrant’s mother lives in New Zealand, and get offended and demand an explanation if the answer is “no”. One directly stated the intent to harass a middle-aged coworker, every single day, to go home to her mommy.
I have encountered a woman who was a small-time landlord’s wife, and who suggested that, a paying, civilised tenant should move out and go back where they came from.
An OK country. But many, many stupid, small-minded people. And that includes in larger cities, like Wellington.
Answered Oct 22
They tend to think that everyone is like themselves, and that everyplace is equivalent.
There is common idea that everyone just remains living in one place for their whole life, and that nobody ever changes where they live. If they hear that you have relocated, they may treat you like you are on a temporary, short-term vacation. And that you automatically “have to” to go back to where you “really” live.
People who lack basic relocation-related skills, like navigating an unfamiliar area with a street map, tend to project that skill deficit onto everyone else.
People who lack basic relocation-related aptitudes, like the psychological ability to handle unfamiliar environments, or to go someplace alone, tend to project that aptitude deficit onto everyone else.
People who feel tied to a location based on emotional and/or financial dependence upon someone else, project that dependence onto everyone else.
I have encountered people who couldn’t even handle going across town, insidethe local area, by themselves, and projected that onto everyone else.
They also lack understanding that there may be legitimate practical reasons for a person to relocate. Someone in the suburbs of a large city may fail to comprehend that, some locations have very poor opportunity levels (e.g. small, isolated, impoverished rural towns with severe unemployment and underemployment).
They tend to think that everywhere is basically the same, including foreign countries.
Some people will start up with this immediately upon meeting, and will try to make the entire conversation about projecting these things.
Updated Jun 30
A few big issues come to mind, and they also have a sort of sub-issue.
The sub-issue is social. As a child, I naively assumed that these things were common knowledge in the civilian populace. Or that, if someone didn’t know these simple facts, they could easily learn and accept them.
In reality, a significant number of people don’t grasp the concept of an 18-year-old being an adult, on any level. They cannot imagine someone that age even moving out of their parents’ house. I’ve been treated like I did something wrong.
The people who have never left their hometown tend to think that everyone has that same situation. They don’t even grasp that moving to a new city is within human capability.
I get treated like, geographic mobility is an immature, irresponsible, dangerous, “unstable” aberration, or even just a fantasy that I personally invented. I have been condescendingly told that I “have to” go back to where I “really” live, which is assumed to be some town where I lived as a child. They think I have “really”lived in one town for my entire life, and going anywhere else has been some kind of temporary vacation.
As I have mentioned elsewhere, both of these are female-biased things. I have had allegedly adult women insist that everyone “has to” live in the same town as their mother. And that I somehow don’t have the right or even the ability to live any significant distance away. They don’t care if you are middle-aged, as they pester you, or even get angry at you over this issue.
They apparently think that a service member can whine to the military, “Boo, hoo, hoo, you have to station me at a base that is within ten kilometres of my mommy’s house, so I can keep the umbilical cord attached”.
Or perhaps whine to the military, “Boo, hoo, hoo, you can’t reassign me to a new base, because then my child will grow up and offend all those legitimate people who are entitled to have everyone’s world be as small and fixed as theirs”.
There is also the general assumption that, an adult moving alone to a new area is too frightening and disorienting for anyone (including me) to handle. They don’t care if you were in some isolated, low-income, low-opportunity small town. They will tell you that the “right” thing to do was to stay there, and that you should immediately go back and “settle down”.
As a child and teenager, I really failed to anticipate how utterly terrified most people are of any kind of change, and any kind of ambiguity. And the sort of “guilt by association” that would be directed at me. I also failed to anticipate how needy some people are about “friends”, and how they can be so uncomfortable with my low-attachment, introverted style.
A more minor point is that I liked the organisation, standardisation, uniforms, and sense of discipline.
Also, repeated moves helped inspire my inclination towards a minimalist lifestyle, in terms of material possessions.
Another issue was taking an early interest in current events and politics. Including government sabre-rattling and nuclear paranoia, but also just keeping up with the news in general. Many people are very poorly informed, and I failed to anticipate that.
Lastly, being around the military makes it more real and more human. It isn’t about feeling big and tough, or Rambo fantasies, or drooling patriotism. It isn’t some stupid movie or macho video game for pimply boys. The guns are real, and some of the planes have bombs onboard. The base has another country’s nuclear missiles aimed directly at it, possibly with high priority.
It is an economically motivated tool of menacing threats and mass violence, in which real people would suffer.